What do you need to surrender to?

On Saturday, I participated in my first Triathlon dress rehearsal. The dress rehearsal provides an opportunity for Triathlon participants to experience the open water swim of 1100 meters (44 laps) and the 3 mile run course. Over the last six months, I have been learning to swim, bike and to run in order to prepare for the Iron Girl Triathon on August 21st.
While I have practiced swimming lap after lap over the last few months, I had never imagined what I experienced for the trial swim. Upon entering the water surrounded by twenty-five women or so into murky deep water, I knew that this was going to be a life changing experience.   After swimming out just 2 laps I was able to then see the depth of my physical, mental and emotional commitment.  As I began to contend with protecting my face from the feet in front of me while trying to reckon with the best way to swim this distance event, I realized that my best strategy would be to surrender.  I surrendered to all of my hours of hard work to learn to swim just four months ago.  I surrendered to the lessons that my swim coach spoke of and the drills that she taught me to prepare me for this day.  I surrendered to relax in the great mass of water called the Lake.  I don’t know what challenge is in front of you, but I can tell you that if you surrender and do what you know best you are going to make it through.
I made great time in the water on Saturday.  In less than 35 minutes I had finished the swim without stopping.  I want you to know that if you stay focused you will make it through your challenge in record time.
Live fully,
Mia

How long did it take you to reclaim the “Me” in Mommy?

A  common question that I like to ask my clients is, “How long did it take you to reclaim the “Me” in Mommy after becoming a new mother?”  Take a minute right now and think about your answer.
In most case mothers are so busy adjusting to the constant changes of new stages, ages, attitudes and activities that the personal consistent “To Do” list takes a backseat to the demands of life.  Most of the time, we are surprised at our arrival of zero consistent actions for ourselves, forgetting what really looks good on us, personal favorite things to do for fun and to follow all of the advice that we give our children about creating a fulfilling life.
Many of  my clients consider the “Girls Night Out” events once every three months to be a sign of healthy adult stimulation and a tremendous outlet for venting with other friends that get it.  While, I am an advocate for the “girl time” events I know that ritual self-care is what will allow any mother to enjoy her life daily.  Did you ask, “What is ritual self-care?”
In my book, “Time for Mom-Me:5 Essential Strategies for A Mother’s Self-Care” I share  specific strategies that moms can apply to make taking care of yourself a daily routine just like brushing your teeth, combing your hair or eating a meal.  My philosophy on Mom-Me self-care has helped thousands of moms not only strike a balance in their lives but more importantly, learn how to design a balance way to live.  When we invest health, peace, love, joy and quality into ourselves we are then able to give those same gifts to those we love more freely.  This year, I encourage you  Learn How to start a Time for Mom-Me self-care group.
Live fully,
Mia

Are you taking care of the “Me” in Mommy?

I enjoy a quiet start to my morning. I love getting up early before my family is awake and meditating, exercising or reading without interruption. So, I plan an informal date with myself each day to enjoy the quiet of my thoughts and to be intentional about my day.
It is true that the demands of motherhood make us feel like we are on a never ending roller-coaster at times. On the flip side of things prioritizing your own self-care allows us to set our own pace and tone for our lives. Over the years, I have met many mothers that consistently struggled with slicing out their piece of the life pie because of guilt, busyness, excuses or just lack of awareness about their own basic needs. Additionally, I have met mothers who have managed to reach for so much more in their live because they have learned that they are clearer with a full cup.
At any time we get to decide what we want and how we will arrange our life based on what is important to us. Taking care of myself is a lifestyle that I enjoy. In many areas of my life I am clear about what makes me feel joyful and also what gives my life meaning. For me, taking care of the “Me” in Mommy is the better way to live.
Live fully,
Mia